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Friday, June 26, 2009

Michael Jackson And My Twins Birth Date

My twins born in 1978 have the same birth date as Michael Jackson: August 29. When the kids were 4 years old 'Thriller' came out and they were so proud to share their birthday with a famous person. Over the years that association was not always something to be proud of, but then again we all share our birthday with a famous or infamous person. It is up to us to decide how much we want to identify with that fact.

I have fond memories or Michael's early songs and send my condolences to his family and friends.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Staying In the Moment

We hear a lot about staying in the moment or NOW lately. It is talked about in the movie 'the Secret - the law of attraction' and on Oprah. That's when I was surprised to read this blog post titled: Pay Attention at

flow like a riverI like it when I get confirmation of the way I see things from totally different directions. Living in the NOW put everything into a different perspective. What if we let go of the past and the future and only concentrate on the NOW. All the baggage we have in relationships because of the past, can be ignored and the other person(s) dealt with in the present. Do we change our behavior when we see the other person the way they are right now and not the way we remember and all the stuff that bugs us about them? I think it is worthwhile to give it a try and see what the result will be.

I would love to get your feedback on this and am looking forward to reading your comments.

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

This Blog Is Over 1 Year Old

Marlies WordleHow time flies. I just realized that I have been blogging at Dappled Air for over a year. My first post appeared on June 16/2008. Now after a year I have gotten the hang of blogging and am in the middle of redoing my main website Marlies' Creative Universe.

The website has gotten so big and so diverse since its inception in 1997, that it is time to split it up and switch to a different CMS. Currently I am using TYPO3, but the new sites will be in Wordpress. For the last half year I have been immersing myself in the intricacies of Wordpress. Thank goodness I learned to use TYPO3 and now switching to a different CMS is much easier.

I will keep on using Dappled Air as my blog for my personal musings. Specific interests will be taken over by the various sub blogs. I am in the middle of activating them which is quite a big job in itself. If you check out the links below you will find that they are in various states of readiness, but from each one there is also a link to the section on the old site until I can transfer all the content to the new sites.
I am looking forward to sharing my ideas and creations with others.

Monday, June 22, 2009

EFT Benefit While Doing Yoga

yoga exerciseIn the last few months my daily yoga exercise has been replaced with gardening and looking back it seems that we had very few rainy weekdays and so I did a lot more gardening than yoga.

Today was the first day in over a month that I am indoors and so it yoga time. I really enjoyed my workout and noticed an effect that had not happened before. From my EFT practice I know that yawning is a sign when a release occurs.
EFT Theory: "The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system" - Wikipedia
At this morning's session during and after some exercises I was busy yawning and I realized that yoga does also stimulate the meridians and as my body is now recognizing this stimulation it automatically goes into release mode. I have no idea what blocks are released, however. I have not heard or read of this anywhere, but I am very pleased.

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Thursday, June 18, 2009

Another Salamander

While digging in my garden this week I came across these two salamanders. At first they did not move at all, so I quickly ran for my camera and took the picture.

two salamandersSome quick research revealed that they are Redback Salamanders (Plethodon cinereus):
"This salamander is more of a land creature. It lives in all sorts of moist forests and often invades suburban backyards. Its eggs are laid in damp places under rocks or logs, so there is no aquatic stage at all. Redback Salamanders have no lungs. The animals breathe through their skins, and the lining of the roof of the mouth.

Read the rest at the above link from the Nova Scotia Museum of Natural History."

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Look What The Kids Found Under A Rock!

On our daily walk around the lake we came across some elementary school aged kids with one of them holding something in his hand. It turned out to be a 'Spotted Salamander'. They had found it by turning over a rock. Always having my camera with me allowed me to take a picture. The animal was scared and peeing, so they decided to put it back where they found it.

Here is the info I found at Wikipedia about the Salamander:
  • Latin name: Ambystoma maculatum
  • "The spotted salamander is about 6-7 1/2 inches long. The spotted salamander's main color is black, but can sometimes be blue-black, dark gray, or even dark brown. There are two rows of yellow/orange spots that run from the top of the head (near the eyes) to the tip of the tail. These rows are uneven. An interesting fact is that the spotted salamander's spots near the top of the head are more orange and the rest of the spots are more yellow. The underside of the spotted salamander is slate gray."
  • "The spotted salamander usually makes its home around hardwood forest areas. They must have a pond because that is the only place they can make eggs. Spotted salamanders spends most of its time beneath the ground level. It hides in moist areas under moss-covered rocks or stones."
  • "Spotted salamanders are common throughout the eastern region, but are rarely seen because they are usually hiding beneath ground level. They may also lay their eggs in a slow stream. They make a migration one to two nights going to lay the eggs and then going back."
  • "The spotted salamander eats insects to help pest control, and helps to be food for snakes, toads, frogs, goldfish, and red slider turtles. Sometimes the amount of salamanders, or any amphibian will also help show the amount of pollution in the area. This is because most amphibians live partly, or totally in water and many breath through their skin."
  • "Adults can live up to 30 years and remember where their breeding pool was. The longest spotted salamander seen was 9 3/4 inches long. If a predator of the spotted salamander manages to dismember a part of a leg, tail, or even parts of the brain/head, then it can grow back a new one, although this takes a massive amount of energy. The spotted salamander, like other salamanders show great regenerative abilities, which is another reason they are studied. The Spotted Salamander is the State Amphibian of South Carolina."

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Are They May Bugs or June Bugs?

That depends of where you live. Growing up in Switzerland, I remember as a small girl 3 or 4 collecting May bugs in the evening (they seem to be nocturnal) with my dad. That was before I was grossed out touching bugs and worms. We collected them in a glass jar. They made a funny sound and smelled strange. Then we let them go again.

June BugWhen I arrived in Canada (1975) I noticed that there were no May bugs, but the same kind of bug appeared in June and therefore was called June bug. I just chalked it up to the cooler temperatures in Canada.

Fast forward to 2009, the last week of May I noticed that there were bugs flying against my bathroom window at night. They sounded just like June bugs, but it was still May. So I guess with the climate change they have now also turned into May bugs.

Digging in my garden I noticed that the bugs hid during the day in the earth and only come out at night when they are attracted to light and bump against lit up windows. Ok, now that my curiosity was peeked I just had to look them up in Wikipedia.

June Bug LarvaJune bugs belong to the genus of the New World scarab beetle and the subfamily of Melolonthinae.
European May bugs also belong to the same subfamily (link to German text).

June bug larva ->

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Sometimes It Is Hard To Forgive

In last week's newsletter from Sheila Betker: Freedom to Dream I came across this very interesting and helpful article.

The Road to Forgiveness is a Journey Toward Freedom

"If unresolved anger is a toxin to the spirit, forgiveness is the antidote," wrote Brian Luke Seaward in his book, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water: Reflections on Stress and Human Spirituality.

When people get hurt, they often react with resentment, anger, rage, even hatred. While some of these emotions may feel like appropriate responses in the short term, holding on to them will cause further pain and stress. Nurturing old wounds and resentments is like tending weeds in a garden. The more care you give them, the more they take over until there's no room for the positive feelings that can nourish you.

Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning inappropriate behaviour or excusing personal violations. It doesn't mean giving up or hiding or denying what was done. To forgive someone of something doesn't mean turning the other cheek so that you can be hurt again. To forgive doesn't mean you forget that you were harmed.

What it does mean is letting go of the feelings of anger or resentment, so that you can get on with your life. Forgiving is a process--sometimes a slow one--that heals wounds and returns your power to you. So long as you hold onto negative feelings, you give control of your life over to those who have hurt you. Forgiveness sets you free.

Ways to Forgive
While forgiveness begins with a single decision, the decision to forgive is just the first step in an active process. To get from here to there is a journey to be traveled. But you don't have to travel it alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help along the way. Here are some stepping stones along the path..

Acknowledge all the feelings. Though anger and resentment might be on top, beneath may lie feelings of hurt, betrayal, loss and grief. Uncovering these more tender emotions may be painful, but, like curves in the road, it is part of the journey to be traveled.

Stop blaming. So long as you hold someone else responsible for your feelings or circumstances, you don't own your own life. You stop blaming by accepting total responsibility for your life, and allowing others to accept responsibility for theirs.

Release the desire for revenge. The wish to inflict suffering or pain on the person who hurt you keeps you in a place of suffering and pain. You cannot experience the freedom of forgiveness until you are willing to move away from the need to punish or retaliate.

Learn to accept. It's virtually impossible to stop judging completely; however, the fewer negative judgments you make, the easier it is to accept. And, according to author Wayne Dyer, "Acceptance is forgiveness in action." Judgments say very little about the judged, but communicate lots about the one who is doing the judging.

Decide to confront or not. Talking with the person who has harmed you may or may not be the best action to take. Be honest with yourself about what you hope to and are likely able to accomplish with such a meeting. Trust your heart when deciding the best course of action for you.

Let go. Only through releasing all feelings of anger, resentment, or animosity can forgiveness be unconditional. "Sweet forgiveness cannot hold any taste of bitterness," says Brian Luke Seaward. "When feelings of anger are released, the spirit once held captive by the encumbrance of anger is free to journey again."

Forgiveness is not just an outward expression toward others. Turning the open hand of forgiveness inward is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. When you forgive yourself you acknowledge your human limitations, release yourself from your own judgments and practice self-acceptance. These actions are essential for a life of freedom and joy.

Through action or inaction, out of fear, pain or confusion, you may harm yourself or others. But when you say, "I'll never forgive myself," you sentence yourself to a life of guilt and shame.

Practice self-forgiveness through:
  • Accepting yourself rather than judging yourself
  • Honouring yourself rather than blaming yourself
  • Nurturing yourself rather than criticizing yourself
  • Releasing the past rather than holding onto it
Forgiveness, even self-forgiveness cannot be forced. And it may not come easily. Like other skills you must learn, forgiveness and self-forgiveness take practice. If you are unable to immediately release the past and move on, be forgiving of yourself and continue the practice.

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Monday, June 1, 2009

groupsThis article: The New Socialism: Global Collectivist Society Is Coming Online continues my thread of thought from my May 13/09 post. I am always amazed how people come to the same understanding from so many different directions. It is like the saying says: "All roads lead to Rome".

feeling out of placeI wonder how long it will take mainstream and governments to realize that we have more in common with each other than what separates us. That our natural inclination is to share and communicate and thanks to the Internet and computers it is becoming easier than ever to find likeminded others.

It does not matter how large or how small that group is. It is the fact that there are others like us that's important. Before the Internet we were like little islands floating in a huge sea where we could not even see other islands. Now, distance, country and time zone does not even matter any more. We find a way to connect to others with the same ideas.